Internet Dating 101: How to find the perfect match

Is Somebody Interested In You?

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How can you tell if a somebody is interested in you?

I am asking you this because if you wish to control any of your dating life, your personal life, and even your business life. You should know how to read people.

I? Ve read plenty of articles and worked with plenty of students. They have come up with such things as she is touching her hair. She smiles and her eyes just seem to set on you if we are talking about dating.

The biggest problem with the above question is that you are looking for something to justify you. The greatest strength comes from within. When you learn to believe in yourself in a truly deep level you won? T care who is interested in you. Your thoughts and beliefs will be so powerful that about 90% of the population will be interested in you just because your thoughts are so powerful.

Thoughts of? Is he / she interested in me?

Are thoughts of doubt, fear and a lack of self confidence. Well if you think these thoughts the person you are interested in will also begin to think thoughts of Doubt, fear and have a lack of self confidence.

Who wants to feel those feelings?

Yet think about this for a few minutes.

When was the last time you were around somebody who is really, confident, powerful, believed in themselves, comfortable in life, fun, and playful. Noticed how you feel around this person.

If their feelings are stronger than yours, you tend to feel confident, powerful, believe in yourself, comfortable in your life, find things fun and playful. Not a bad way to feel huh?

Now think about a time you were around somebody who was really depressed. They think the world is against them, a lot of things are on their mind, they never have any fun and just hate life.

Noticed how you feel when you are around somebody like that? Their negative state can actually pull you down.

this Knowing which type of person would you rather be around?

Now also thinking about the above two types of people? Who do you think you best represent?

Are you fun, playful, have a zest for life, confident, powerful and believe in yourself?

Or are you somebody who is negative, really depressed? Thinks the world is against them.

You can control your emotions with a little bit of work.

Now say you are on a date. If you are feeling unsure of yourself, and you have lots of doubt. Guess what your date picks up about your emotions. The majority of times he / she will not want to go out with you again.

Now if you were on that same date and felt confident, believed in yourself, and were having fun. How do you think your date would feel about you?

Learn to generate the positive feelings first, instead of worrying what somebody else is feeling.

You can look at somebody and find 10 reasons with their body language that say they like you in just a few minutes or you can look at somebody and find 10 reasons to see that they do not like you.

All you have to do is notice one or 2 reasons for a person to like you and believe in them. If you can believe in these reasons your spirits will pick up and soon more and more signals will be generated about somebody liking you.

Guess what though? Who is truly generating those feeling? You or the person you are with?

This applies to everything in life, not just dating.

You are the person generating the feelings. As you are leading with your emotions. The true answer lies within you, not from outside.

Let's take a few examples.

Say a guy in a coffee shop sees a beautiful girl and wants to get to know her better.

He goes up to her and she tells him,? hey leave me alone. I? M busy studying.

Now the guy can have a lot of thoughts and responses based on what she said.

He can interpret this in a lot of ways. The leave me alone, I? M busy studying.

He can take it as she is busy and is indifferent about me.

He could take it as she doesn? T find me attractive and I don? t have any chance with her.

Or he could take it as? she likes me .. A LOT. In fact she likes me so much she is trying to not show any interest. Is not that cute? She is trying to play hard to get.

All 3 situations could happen with her response. The thing that really matters is how he interprets it. If he is looking for any type of approval. She will feel this? need for approval? and find it repulsive as she will also feel then? this need for approval when around him?.

Who wants to feel that way?

The indifferent is just that indifferent. She is neutral. She doesn? T know ANYTHING about him. Her mind is on her studies. He would have to get her attention first, than get some interest, before she can make a real decision about him.

Than the 3rd and what I find to be the most useful example. She loves him so much she doesn? T want to appear too eager.

Now this might be the case or it might not be. The key is does he believe it to be. If he does and plays with it. She will pick up his feelings of confidence, self assurance, playfulness, and his ability to be comfortable in any situation.

persons actions will happen based on how they imterpret the situation.

This is a big piece of the puzzle we teach at trusting. Learn to interpret everything that happens as something that will benefit you. Believe in yourself and others will too.

If you are serious about online dating, you need to be on the right dating website. The top dating website of 2007-2008 was voted to be AdultFriendFinder.com, which has the most options for matches and the most members compared to their competition. Don't wait any longer or waste your time on other sites, a simple click can change your life!

How To Make A Lasting Impression

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How many times have you felt the urge to impress a girl you've just met? I'm talking about the kind of burning need that you feel, the compulsive urge that tells your brain that you've got to impress this girl at any cost, the kind of impression that leaves your imprint in her mind. Catch my drift ???

For starters, you've got to be well groomed; appearance plays an important role in the formation of first impression. Your appearance is the first perception that anyone has of you, so, your clothes speak for you to a certain degree.

Ponder on this: How many times has a well dressed lady caught your eye when you are out walking in the streets? Well, you do not have a clue about the lady and YET she caught your eye? so, what she is wearing is the thing that is doing the communication here? It is all the better if you come packaged with good looks and a great body but let's get real, not many men are blessed with that so, suffice to say that well groom is the way to go. Once

that is settled, you got to work on perfecting the art of small talk. Small talk creates a window of opportunity for you to make a lasting impression with the person you are talking to. The one thing that you need to bear in mind is to stay clear from the typical senseless drivel. Strive instead to be an interesting conversationalist. A good way to start would be to scan the newspaper headline everyday; newspaper headlines always make good conversation starters.

Project yourself as an interesting conversationalist by choosing topics of interest. These topics can range from current events to an upcoming movie or concert. Take note that an upcoming movie or concert would make an excellent prelude to asking for a date.

It would be great if you have a story to tell that relates to the conversation on hand. Telling a story not only creates association, it also piques her interest in you and subconsciously this association (you + the story and conversation at hand) is being filed into her memory subconsciously. As such, when she comes across the same situation or object again in the near future, she would be instantly reminded of you. Now that is the kind of impression you'd like to leave with a girl.

It gets better if you can make her laugh? It'll put you on good terms with her and she's definitely more likely to remember you when you make her laugh. Laughter also makes her more relaxing and comfortable around you as laughing releases the feel good hormone. So, go on out there, tickle her funny bone and you are more likely to walk away with her number and chances are she'll remember you when you call.

All said and done, you still have to come across as being comfortable with yourself doing when you are all these. Do not fake it! Women can detect it? As long as you are yourself and not pretending to be someone you are not, with a little humor, a dose of sensitivity and a lot of confidence you'll definitely go places with her !!!

If you are serious about online dating, you need to be on the right dating website. The top dating website of 2007-2008 was voted to be AdultFriendFinder.com, which has the most options for matches and the most members compared to their competition. Don't wait any longer or waste your time on other sites, a simple click can change your life!

You Don't Have To Be A Genius To Write A Love Poem

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Love poems are a wonderfully romantic gesture and can often express your thoughts far more eloquently than verbal communication.

If you have some talent with words, why not take a few moments and try your hand at writing a poem for your lover? Just sit down and list all the reasons why you think they're special. Then put those thoughts into some kind of free verse format: a column of lines, roughly the same length, which may rhyme but do not need to.

Take some time to read over what you've written and you'll get a few ideas on how to improve a line or phrase. The point is to express your feelings as honestly and clearly as possible. Simplicity is the key. And if you're really motivated, you can spend half an hour of prep time reading some classical romantic poems to get your brain into that 'groove'.

Even if your poem will not win any literary prizes , The person you present it to will most likely treasure it as if it were composed by one of the great Romantic poets. People tend to value a personalized gift far more than one that's purchased. What they're really appreciating is the time and effort invested on their behalf.

I'd like to share a story of the first time I received a love poem. When I

was twelve years old I had a crush on Robert, the new boy in my class at school, and he had very generously decided that I was "cute". One afternoon we were waiting with some classmates at the bus stop when he announced that he did not like me anymore. He was now in love with my best friend, Julie.

I was so incensed by this betrayal that I lunged at him and chased him down the street. He swerved into the gutter and I bolted after him just as the bus pulled into. It hit me from behind and I went down. The bus then ran over my right foot.

A short time later, the ambulance arrived and the paramedic driver examined me. He decided that I did not need hospitalization so he drove me home with instructions to spend the next six weeks in bed. Meanwhile, a distraught Robert was blaming himself for the accident. He asked the other children at the bus stop where I lived, then walked the two miles to my house. Then he sat across the street on the pavement, wondering if my father would strangle him if he knocked at the front door.

A couple of hours later he worked up the courage to confront my father, which turned out to be something of an anti-climax because my father had no idea about Robert's part in the drama. Robert tiptoed into my room and handed me a sheet of paper, he had written a poem for me as he sat across the street from my house. I remember how thrilled I was that someone would do such a thing. It was like something out of a novel or a movie.

I kept that poem, which ran to one and a half legal pages, for a number of years, until it disappeared when we moved house a decade later . But I still remember the first four lines:

Her name is Marguerite
I very much like that girl
She means much more to me
Than any gem or pearl

That was a lifetime ago and yet those words remain in my memory.

As for the boy himself, by the time I got back to school Robert had moved on to greener pastures (he now liked my best friend's new best friend). But that hardly mattered as I was now a minor celebrity because I got hit by a bus while chasing a boy. The nuns had a field day praying for my soul, which was not the last time they'd engage in that futile exercise.

My right foot is still a little flatter than my left but it was worth it for the notoriety. And hey, Robert, wherever you are, thanks for the memory.

Using Other People's Love Poems

If you do not have Robert's literary talent, there is another option. Find an existing poem that best expresses how you feel and present it to your lover inside a greeting card or gift. Or have it framed and present it with a bouquet of flowers.

There are a number of sites online that offer love poems. You can find a list on our web site or use one of the search engines.

If you are serious about online dating, you need to be on the right dating website. The top dating website of 2007-2008 was voted to be AdultFriendFinder.com, which has the most options for matches and the most members compared to their competition. Don't wait any longer or waste your time on other sites, a simple click can change your life!

He Was Either The Most Romantic Man In The World - Or A Complete Idiot

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Heather had been dating Ben for a little over two months. She quite enjoyed his company but was beginning to realize he was not the man for her. She was not so much physically attracted to him as she was entertained by his offbeat sense of humor and his sense of the ridiculous. They'd had some great times together but she was contemplating giving him the? Let's just be friends? speech.
On the night of her twenty-eighth birthday, Ben told her he had something special in store for her. Heather felt a Twingo of discomfort but told herself she was overreacting. Ben tended to over-dramatize ordinary events, which was part of what made him fun. They enjoyed a fabulous dinner at a beautiful restaurant, then returned to Ben's place so he could present her with his gift.
Heather was amused to discover that Ben had set up a treasure hunt in his apartment. In each of the rooms he'd planted objects containing small folded notes. On each note he's written an obscure message which would lead her to the next clue. Ben pointed out the location of the first clue, then left her to discover the rest.
Heather's anxiety began to mount as she reached the sixth clue. She found it in Ben's walk-in closet, just after she stumbled across three long dart blowers hidden behind his clothes. She'd already noticed the gun cases under the bed. At that moment Ben called out from the living room, "As soon as you find it, I'll shoot us? Her imagination went into overdrive.
Two minutes later she found the box. It was large and beautifully wrapped. Inside it was a smaller box, and inside that a third one. When she opened the fourth box she saw the diamond ring. Heather was stunned.
By now Ben was beside her. He looked at her face and decided she was overcome with gratitude. ? You do not have to say anything now? he murmured. ? Just nod if you want to marry me.
Heather calculated her chances. Did he have any poison darts handy? Could she reach the front door before he opened a gun case? No, she decided. She'd have to tough it out.
? What on earth possessed you to buy this for me? she demanded.
Ben hesitated but quickly recovered. ? It does not have to be an engagement ring? he backpedaled. ? Just accept it as a birthday gift. You can always change your mind later.
? But I can not accept something like this? Heather explained. ? I can not stand wearing jewelry.
Ben was so caught up in his fantasy that he had not noticed the blatantly obvious. On both counts.
Heather was relieved to discover that the only shooting Ben was intended that night with his camera. But the celebratory mood was over and she left shortly afterwards, minus the ring. She did not go out with Ben again.
Have you ever miscalculated with a gift? Perhaps not as blatantly as Ben did but there may have been times when you gave the wrong thing to the right person or the right thing to the wrong person. And then wondered why they did not seem particularly grateful.
Gift giving thought and involves a certain amount of premeditation. If you do not know what to buy, ask. It does not have to be the person himself (or herself), you can ask their father, mother, sister or best friend. Just make sure it's someone who knows them well and can tell you what they would like. And do not count on someone's response on a previous occasion. Many people will not tell you if they do not appreciate a gift in an effort to spare your feelings.
Putting thought into your gift selection is usually worth the effort. And perhaps the best thing about receiving a gift you love is the feeling that the other person knows you so well that they knew exactly what to choose.

If you are serious about online dating, you need to be on the right dating website. The top dating website of 2007-2008 was voted to be AdultFriendFinder.com, which has the most options for matches and the most members compared to their competition. Don't wait any longer or waste your time on other sites, a simple click can change your life!

Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places?

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You? ve hung out in bars, you? ve answered the personals, you? ve Maxedia out the plastic trolling online dating sites, and you still haven? t met the right person. Or, you? Ve ended up dating a series of potential perfect matches, only to be disappointed.
Why are your friends able to hook up, but you? re always left high and dry? Have all the good single people slid off the Earth?
Listen, if you continually date people who suddenly stop calling, who turn out to have some type of social tic like complaining incessantly or being mean to waiters, who never stop talking about themselves, who are incapable of telling the truth, you have a problem. And the problem is you.
Yes, you.
If you want to attract a good, fun, and genuine person who will love you and make you happy, then you must love yourself and make yourself happy first. If you usually end up dating losers, you are clearly short in the self-love department. You see, according to the Law of Attraction, like attracts like. So if you don? T love yourself adequately, you will attract people who hurt or disappoint you. Always.
Think this is a bunch of hooey, do you? Well, give it a chance and your life will change. I want you to go to the bathroom right now, go to the mirror and look yourself in the eye, and say, "I approve of myself. Say," I love myself unconditionally.
Oooh, doesn? t that feel weird? doesn? t it feel creepy?
Of course it does. Most of us haven? t been raised to love and approve of ourselves. We have no problem looking in the mirror and telling ourselves that we're hopelessly bald or that our stomachs jiggle. Self-hatred is perfectly acceptable. Looking in the mirror and saying, "I approve of myself, and I love myself unconditionally? is weird. And scary.
But I want you to keep it up. I want you to get behind the wheel of your car tomorrow, and instead of speed dialing some Chum while you? re flying down the parkway, say? I approve of myself? out loud again and again and again. Say it one thousand times. Say it at home while you? re doing the laundry. Say it when you? re cooking dinner (or peeling it out of a paper bag).
After a couple of weeks, your subconscious will accept the fact that you truly love and approve of yourself. And guess what? You will attract better friends, better jobs, better circumstances, and yes, much better dates. Your posture will improve, too .
You will find that you attract people who are more reliable and less neurotic. Good? single people will seem to come out of the woodwork. You will not have to work so hard to get a second date or to maintain a relationship. People will want to be with you because you feel good about yourself.
Self-love attracts love like a magnet. Go for it.

If you are serious about online dating, you need to be on the right dating website. The top dating website of 2007-2008 was voted to be AdultFriendFinder.com, which has the most options for matches and the most members compared to their competition. Don't wait any longer or waste your time on other sites, a simple click can change your life!

The Theory of Scarcity in Dating

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Familiar with the economics theory of scarcity? Here's a simple way to illustrate the theory, this theory basically says that if the supply of a certain commodity or goods is more than its demand, then the price of the commodity is bound to drop. On the other hand, the reverse is true if the demand is more than supply. Now, you must be wondering what has all this got to do with dating. Actually it has everything to do with dating?
Still clueless? Here goes! Let's assume that you are at the point where you've just started seeing a girl, went out for a couple of dates and you've pretty much concluded that she is worth pursuing. This is the point where the theory of scarcity kicks in. Once you start courting, you need to make yourself SCARCE! The most effective way to make a woman bolt for the nearest exit is to start acting like a Leech.
The key to being successful in dating, dude, is to maintain attraction in chasing the game. Throw in enough bait to lure the catch then pull back before the bait catches. Create an aura of mystery? Women love mysteries and romance? No kidding! Women always longed to be swept off their feet by their knight in shining armor and ride off with him into the sunset. That's the reason why books by writers like Barbara Cartland, Danielle Steel and Barbara Taylor Bradford sells so well!
They appeal to the inner voice of a woman. Similarly, you need to be attuned to a woman's needs and wants to be successful with women. Now, first and foremost you need to remember the golden rule, NEVER act like a wuss or needy around a woman, nothing is a bigger turn off than that! Believe me! And that pretty much explains the need for you to make yourself scarce when you are courting.
If you call her 3-4 times a day, do not! Put yourself in her shoes and ask yourself, what is the first thing that comes to mind if you are getting calls every 4-5 hours. The probable answers are few, it's either you have no social life, too free or you are DESPARATE! None of it is good for your image and you certainly do not want to be identified as such?
So, do yourself a favor, appear to her busy even if you have absolutely nothing to do. Every time your hand reaches for the phone, stop yourself and do not screw things up by being over eager! On the contrary, remind yourself that if you do not call frequently, she will think that you have a life besides her and that makes you desirable! By appearing busy you are also implying that you are a career oriented and confident man. A career man equates dependable!
Therefore exercise caution when you are at the start of a new relationship. Too much too soon and you'll turn the table against you but play your cards right and you got a winner!

If you are serious about online dating, you need to be on the right dating website. The top dating website of 2007-2008 was voted to be AdultFriendFinder.com, which has the most options for matches and the most members compared to their competition. Don't wait any longer or waste your time on other sites, a simple click can change your life!

Choosing an Online Dating Service

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The problem with choosing a dating service is choice - too much of it! There are hundreds of services. To choose a dating service that's right for you, you need to be clear about exactly what you're looking for. As a newcomer to online dating, unfamiliar with all the options, you might be a little Hazy on this front. Here's a rundown of the main areas in which dating services differ which will help you draw up a dating service wish list to compare sites to.
Relationship options
One of the most obvious things to think about when choosing a dating service is what kind of relationship (s) you're looking for.
Some services, including top dating sites like Yahoo! Personals (singles dating) and eHarmony (SOULMATES) focus on one type of relationship only. The advantage of choosing a dating service that's dedicated to a particular type of relationship is that everyone will be on exactly the same page as you are in terms of intentions.
If you're not clear what your intentions are , You might be better choosing a dating service where members can pursue different types of relationships within the same site. Again there's no shortage of choice. However, at some multi-relationship services it's not immediately clear who's looking for what and up to you to figure it out, using the search tools. If this sounds like trouble (and it can be), choose a service like Lavalife which has separate communities within the site for each type of relationship.
Members
Think about the type of person you want to meet. Are you open-minded, in which case a mainstream service will be fine, or do you have a lengthy list of "must haves" regarding your perfect match?
If you have set ideas about the type of person you'd like to meet, finding them in a mainstream service could be like looking for the proverbial needle in a haystack. (By "mainstream", I mean that members are as diverse as the general population.) Instead, consider choosing a relationship service that specializes in bringing people together who have something very specific in common - religion, political beliefs, ethnicity, body size , Certain lifestyles, you name it.
Simply run a search for "dating (or matchmaking, or marriage)" plus whatever you're looking for (vegetarian, republican, biker ...) and it's almost certain you'll find a relationship service to match.
Matchmaking features
Dating sites have thousands if not millions of members so good search tools are important. However, it's still up to you search out your perfect match and not everyone has time for this. Luckily many dating services have matchmaking features (more sophisticated search tools) that will help you find "the one" quickly and easily.
Matchmaking features range from the very simple, based on profiles and / or basic wish lists , To the sophisticated, based on personality and other tests as well as more detailed profiles and wish lists. Unless you're unusually picky (or just very unusual), these one-click options will typically churn up a good selection of possible matches on a regular basis - popular dating services attract many new members a day. You can usually opt to have these matchmaking searches run automatically on a regular basis and receive new match details by email - another time-saver.
At some services, matchmaking features are part of a complete matchmaking service where the selection process is much stricter, usually because they're geared towards serious relationships. Typically you'll receive just a handful of potential partners over a length of time. For example, eHarmony (designed to help people into marriage) advises clients not to expect more than one or two matches a month. To accept this level of matchmaking you have to be happy with the idea of letting the "experts" have the final say about who's right for you and who's not.
Tests
Online dating services are about much more than dating. They're also an opportunity to gain some valuable insights into yourself and the type of person you're looking to meet which could help improve your love life, online and off. If this appeals to you, choose a dating service with personality and other tests for members to take.
For the most part, larger, well established online dating services have the most insightful and detailed personality tests because they have more resources to put into their design. Almost all personality tests are free to take and at many sites matchmaking tools draw on the results to find members who are compatible with each other. So, by taking several tests and judging the results, you'll get a good idea of which site is going to do the best job of helping you find your perfect match. After all, if the results are a true reflection of what you're like, they'll be a true reflection of potential matches too.
Communications
There are two levels of communication to consider when choosing a dating service - what you get for free and what you get as a paying member. On both fronts, some services offer a lot more than others.
Free communications matter because they let you get to know someone, or at least that the interest is mutual, before you spring for a subscription. (A subscription will let you communicate as much as you like.) At most services, free communications are limited to flirty icons and preset messages that members send to each other, but search around. Some services are much more generous than others.
Once you subscribe, the norm for communicating is by on-site email and instant messaging. Many of the top dating services, Yahoo! Personals included, have stuck with this simple set up and show no sign of changing any time soon. Others, like Match.com, are continuously adopting new technologies to offer members more communications options. Typically you'll pay more so think about whether or not you really need to to be able to access their services anytime, anywhere.
Entertainment
Think about what sort of experience you ' d like to have with online dating services. Do you intend to focus on finding your perfect match or would you like to enjoy other activities as well? Many services offer entertainment features including light-hearted quizzes and polls, contests, articles and newsletters, as well as chat rooms and the option to sign up to meet new friends as well as dates.
Offline activities
If the idea of meeting someone online then having to meet them face-to-face at some stage is a little intimidating, look for a dating service that helps members meet and mingle, casually and as part of a group, offline too. Though some dating services go as far as offering singles holidays, offline activities usually involve meeting for concerts, shows and other events in your area or elsewhere.
You can get that all-important "feel" for someone in relaxed atmosphere with plenty of food for conversation and make as much or as little of the occasion as you like. If you have not met someone yet, offline activities are an opportunity to meet someone you might like to continue chatting with online, with the advantage that you've already met.
International dating If you're away from your native country, would like to chat in your native language or are planning to relocate or travel to a different country, some of the more established and successful online dating services have extended their services into countries other than the U.S.. For example, Yahoo! Personals has a new Canadian service while Match.com is live in 27 different countries.
Cost & Payment Options
Most online dating services charge about the same for a subscription - between $ 20 and $ 25 a month - so cost is not going to be much of a deciding factor when choosing a dating service. Instead, look for value - services might charge about the same but there are big differences in what you get for your money. Also, check out payment options. Several dating services accept money orders and checks as well as the usual credit cards.
Find out what discounts will be available if you sign up for several months at once, and if any special offers are available. Finally on this one, look for free trials and try out all the extra subscriber features before committing to a subscription.
More resources to help you choose a dating service When you've
drawn up a checklist of what you'd like in a dating service (and hopefully this article has helped) choosing a dating service will be a lot easier. You can compare your checklist to dating service reviews and, for more specific details, explore FAQs, help pages and "take a tour" options (all good dating services have these). And do not forget, signing up is free and you can usually explore sites without having to post a profile first. Most of all, though it's important to choose a dating service that's right for you, one you'll enjoy using and are mostly like to have success with, choosing a dating service should be fun. If one dating service does not work out for you, move on and choose another!

If you are serious about online dating, you need to be on the right dating website. The top dating website of 2007-2008 was voted to be AdultFriendFinder.com, which has the most options for matches and the most members compared to their competition. Don't wait any longer or waste your time on other sites, a simple click can change your life!

Does the Free Basic Membership Find You A Date?

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When it comes to online dating many people think that by just signing up for a free membership that they will get good results. The fact is this does not usually work. Unless you write a really outstanding profile your response will be poor.
The problem is that if no one signs up for a paying membership to these services then you wont get a response. Some of the big networks like Match.com have hundreds of thousands of paying members. The problem is they also have millions of actual profiles online many of witch are people signed up for free.
Now what I'm getting to is that the large services get flooded with tons of profiles, but no one is talking to each other if no one is paying.
I'm not saying that free profiles are worthless. I actually recommend for you to sign up for many free basic memberships at the big networks. A really well written free profile can go along ways. For those who do not have a good profile though your going to have to get in contact with people who interest you. That means you have to pay.
There are other advantages to paying as well. If you happen to see someone that you are interested in you can get in contact with them and they can get to know you better. This is really effective if you feel that your looks are just average but have an excellent personality. Lets face it most of us just are not models.
Most of us just cannot write a good profile that will give us the response that were looking for. The best way around this is to simply sign up for a membership even if its just for one month. Then start to contact people that were interested in. If your concerned about the price of the membership then just think about how important it can be for you to find the love of your life.

If you are serious about online dating, you need to be on the right dating website. The top dating website of 2007-2008 was voted to be AdultFriendFinder.com, which has the most options for matches and the most members compared to their competition. Don't wait any longer or waste your time on other sites, a simple click can change your life!

Why Online Dating is So Tough For Men

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Online dating has become increasingly popular over the past several years. Every year millions of men turn to internet dating in an effort to meet more women without risking face-to-face rejection. Unfortunately, internet dating doesn't work very well for most men because the odds are so heavily against them.
According to a November 2003 study by Jupiter Research, men are four times more likely than women to subscribe to an online dating site and twice as likely to browse, post, or respond to a profile. Obviously, those odds are stacked strongly in favor of the women.
When it comes to internet dating, to paraphrase James Brown, its a womans world.
This is quite a contrast from the off-line world, where attractive women are not approached nearly as often as men might think.
While doing research for my book, Take Action: How to Meet Women and Get Dates, I surveyed over fifty single women in their twenties or thirties about being approached by men and their views on being hit on and dating in general.
The most striking finding from the survey was that most women very clearly want men to be more daring about approaching them. In response to the question, should men be more bold in approaching women, 82% responded yes.
With a lot of effort and time, online dating can work for some men but it is not easy. You will probably have more success with internet dating by viewing it as a supplement to other methods of meeting women, instead of relying on it as your sole method. Also, use one of the larger services like match.com. You will need to use a shotgun approach and will therefore want to make sure you are in as target-rich an environment as possible.
But if you really want to meet and date a lot of women you will probably need to do it the old fashioned way. Approach women in person.
As the old saying goes, the more things change the more things stay the same.
When it comes to meeting women, a confident man who can approach a beautiful woman and strike up a conversation with her will always do better than the 99% of men who can not. Technology might change a lot, but it will never change that.

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Selecting an Online Dating Site

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So you are thinking of giving online dating a try yourself. Here are some tips on selecting the online dating site that is right for you.
Most sites offer free trial memberships. Join and look around for potential matches. See if other members appear to share the same interests as you. If you can, try to determine if they have members located geographically close enough to you to make dating practical.
Get referrals from other people. Ask around in online forums and discussion groups.
Some sites cater to specialized interests or nationalities. In your search for a site remember to look for these specialized sites if you have specific preferences.
You'll need to submit your email address when signing up for free trials so get an anonymous email account. You can get one at no cost from many sites, for example: Hotmail.com or Walla.com
The Friend Finder network of sites is a good place to begin. They have millions of members so the chance of finding some who shares your interests and is located close to you is greatly increased. They also have a number of specialized sites customized for different races, preferences, religions, etc.
In addition, you can check out the popular dating sites eHarmony, Chemistry.com, and Match.com. Their television advertising ensures lots of new members joining daily. More members increases the chances of your finding a variety of possible new dating matches.
isolated Today's lifestyles and long-working hours can make difficult find a date. But with all the great online dating services available there is no reason to go another day alone.

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Ways to Say I Love You in Another Language

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Have you been looking for romantic and provocative ways to say? I Love You? to your special partner? There are numerous different and creative ways to say? I Love You,? but have you ever thought about memorizing? I Love You? in as many foreign languages as possible?
Imagine someone whispering to you? Je t? aime? or? Te amo? or? Aloha Wau ia? oe. You? D be intrigued, interested, and pleased, wouldn? T you? Well, try several foreign language translations of? I Love You? with a special person in your life and see what happens.
Afrikaans? Ek is lief vir jou
American? Have a beer
Australian? ? ave another
Arabic? Ana Ahebak / Ana Bahibak
Cantonese? Ngo Oi In
Chinese? Gnoy oy na
Danish? Jeg DIG eisker
Dutch? Ik hou van jou
English? I love you
Finnish? Mina rakastan sinua
French? Je t? Aime / Je t? Adore
German? Ich liebe Dich
Greek? S? Agape
Hawaiian? Aloha Wau ia? Oe
Hebrew? Ani ohevet ota
Indonesian? Saya cinta padamu
Italian? I love you
Japanese? Anata wa, by Suki obsolete
Korean? Sa Lang Hae / Na Sa Lan No. Hei
Mandarin? Wo Ai Ni
Norwegian? Jeg eisker deg
Persian? Tora Doost We
Romanian? Te iubesc
Russian? Ya tebya liubliu
Spanish? Te quiero / Te amo / Yo tu amor
Swahili? Naku panda
Swedish? Jag alskar dig
Swiss German? Ch-ha of Garn
Tagolog? Mahal kita / Inilbig kita
Turkish? Seni seviyorum
Vietnamese? Toi yeu em
Do some of the translations above look interesting? Pick out your favorites, then find a good pronouncing dictionary in order to get the sound of the phrase as accurate as possible.
After all, you don? T want? Je t? Adore? to sound like? Shut the door. That would have an entirely different meaning.

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The Language and Meaning of Flowers

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Sweet flowers alone can say what passion fears revealing

Thomas Hood poem, The Language of Flowers
Flowers and bouquets of flowers have a meaning of their own. Most of us know that a dozen red roses means, "Be mine. But did you know, for example, that a Primrose means, "I can? T live without you? or that a purple hyacinth means, "Please forgive me,? or that a pink carnation means, "I? ll never forget you,? or that a Gladiolus means, "Give me a break?
Flower meanings have been used to convey ideas, feelings and messages for centuries. The word, floriography , has been coined for the assignment of meaning to flowers. There is a meaning to colors of flowers, to numbers of flowers, and to groups of flowers. It is a silent language that has been largely lost to us through lack of use.
In addition to the obvious choices of color and variety, the language of flowers also includes the way flowers are worn or presented. Presenting flowers upright conveys a positive meaning, but if they are presented upside down the meaning is the opposite. If a ribbon is included with the flowers and is tied to the left then the meaning of the flowers refers to the giver, but if the ribbon is tied to the right then the meaning refers to the recipient. Also, flowers can be used to answer questions. When they are presented with the right hand is the answer? Yes,? but when presented with the left hand is the answer? no.
History
The Turks in the 17th century seemed to develop flower meanings. In 1718 the wife of the British ambassador to Constantinople, Lady Mary Wortley, wrote a letter expounding on the? Secret Language of Flowers? that she had discovered during her visits to Turkey. Europe quickly picked up on the concept.
Louise Cortambert In 1819, under the pen name, Madame Charlotte de la Tour, wrote and published what seems to have been the first dictionary of the flower language entitled, Le Language des Fleurs . It was a small book, but it became a popular reference on the subject.
During the Victorian era, the reign of Queen Victoria from 1837 to 1901, the meaning and language of flowers became increasingly popular. Victorian women especially picked up the silent language that allowed them to communicate feelings and meanings that the strict propriety of the times would not allow. Tussie-mussies, a bouquet of flowers wrapped with a lace doing and tied with a satin ribbon became a popular and valued gift of the times.
In 1884 a whole book on the subject and entitled, The Language of Flowers , by Jean Marsh and illustrated by Kate Greenaway, was published in London. It became popular and respected and has been the standard source for Victorian flower meaning ever since.
Selected Flower Meanings
Here are some selected flowers and their meanings , A short dictionary.
Almond flowers - Hope

Anemone - Forsaken

Aster - Symbol of love

Balm - Sympathy

Basil - Best wishes

Bay leaf - "I change but in death"

Bell flower, white - Gratitude

Bergamot - Irresistible

Bluebell - Constancy

Borago - Courage

Broom - humility

Campanula - Gratitude

Carnation, pink - I'll never forget you

Carnation, red - My poor heart aches for you

Carnation, striped - Refusal

China rose - Beauty always new

Chrysanthemum - Love

Clover, four leaved - "Be mine"

Coreopsis - Love at first sight

Cuckoo pint - ardor

Daffodil - Regard

Daisy - Innocence, new-born, "I share your sentiment"

Fennel - Flattery

Fern -
sincerity
Forget-Me-Not - True love

Furze or Gorse - Enduring affection

French Marigold - Jealousy

Gardenia - Ecstasy

Gentian - Loveliness

Geranium - "You are childish"

Hare bell - Grief

Heartsease - "I am always thinking of you"

Honeysuckle - Bonds of love

Heather - admiration

Hyacinth - I am sorry, Please forgive me

Ice Plant - "Your appearance freezes me"

Ivy - Fidelity, friendship, marriage

Jasmine - Grace

Jonquil - "I hope for return of affection"

Lavender - Luck, devotion

Lemon Balm - Sympathy

Lilac - First love

Lily - Purity, modesty

Lily of the Valley - Purity, the return of happiness

Lily, Calla - Beauty

Marigold - Health, grief or despair

Marjoram - Kindness, courtesy

Myrtle - Fidelity

Oregano - Joy

Orchid - Love, beauty, refinement

Pansy - Loving thoughts

Periwinkle - Happy memory

Phlox - Agreement

Poppy, red - Consolation

Primrose - I can not live without you

Rose, cabbage - Ambassador of love

Rose, red - Love

Rose, pink - Grace, beauty

Rose, yellow - Friendship

Rosemary - Remembrance, constancy

Rue - Contrition

Sage - Gratitude, domestic virtue

Snowdrop - Hope

Star of Bethlehem - Purity

Sweet Pea - Departure, tender memory

Sweet William - paul

tuberous - Voluptuousness

Tulip, red - My perfect lover, Reclamation of love

Violet - Loyalty, modesty, humility

Violet, blue - Faithfulness

Wormwood - Grief

Wheat - Riches of the continuation of life

Willow, weeping - Mourning

Wallflower - Fidelity

Yew - Sorrow

The Rose
The Rose is the flower whose meaning we most understand, but here are some details of the meaning of the Rose that may be of further interest.
Rose, Black? You are my obsession

Rose, Champagne? You are tender and loving

Rose, Leonidas? Sweet love

Rose, Nicole? You are graceful and elegant, aristocratic

Rose, Orange? You are my secret love

Rose, Pink? Brilliant complexion, the glow of your smile, perfect happiness

Rose, Red? Passionate love, I love you

Rose, Single Stems? Simplicity

Rose, White? I am worthy of you, spiritual love, Purity and Innocence, Secrecy and Silence

Rose, White and Red? We are inseparable

Rose, White and Red Mixed? Unity; Flower emblem of
England
Rose, White, Dried? Death is preferable to loss of virtue

Rose, Yellow? Friendship, Jealousy, I am not worthy

Rose, Bridal? Happy Love

Rose, Dark Crimson? Mourning

Rose, Hibiscus? Delicate beauty

Rose, Tea? I? Ll always remember

Rose, Thornless? Love at first sight

Roses, Bouquet of Mature Blooms? Gratitude

Multiple Roses
Single bloom red Rose? Love at first sight or I still love you

Single Rose, any color? Gratitude or simplicity

2 Roses? Mutual feelings

3 Roses? I love you
7
Roses? I? M infatuated with you

9 Roses? We? Ll be together forever

10 Roses? You are perfect

11 Roses? You are my treasured one

12 Roses? Be mine

13 Roses? Friends forever

15 Roses? I? M truly sorry

20 Roses? I? M truly sincere towards you

21 Roses? I? M dedicated to you

24 Roses? Forever yours

25 Roses? Congratulations

50 Roses? Unconditional love

99 Roses? I will love you all the days of my life

108 Roses? Will you marry me?

999 Roses? I love you till the end of time

What To Do
With the lists above you should be able to assemble a meaningful gift of flowers or a bouquet that conveys a complex thought. Wrap the flowers appropriately and present them in a significant manner. Then, just to be certain that your efforts are not misinterpreted, include a card that fully explains the meaning of your flowers.
After a few flower presentations you should be able to drop the explanatory notes and begin enjoying and sharing the silent language of flowers.
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Does "No" mean "Yes"?

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A recent sexual assault on our campus was a wake-up call to those who thought that our small-town university was safe. But rape by strangers is only one aspect of the problem. What about acquaintance rape and date rape?
One study found that 25% of the female college students surveyed had at least one experience of forced intercourse, and that 93% of these episodes involved acquaintances. College administrators and campus police estimate that date rape or acquaintance rape happens to one-fifth of college women, and one-fourth of college women will experience either attempted or completed forced sex.
This is something we all need to discuss and decide, one by one, what can we do about it. And Christians on campus need to be prepared to offer more than Scriptural? Thou shalt not? S.? ? Just say no? is no more a panacea for acquaintance / date rape than it is for the problem of illicit drugs.
Often, even when the woman says? No? or? Stop? the guy doesn? t stop, or even slow down. He coaxes, pleads, and pressures. He may even ridicule, threaten, or get rough. He thinks? No? means? maybe? and? maybe? might just mean? yes.
Here are some practical suggestions for women. Decide what is your own personal, defined standard of how far is acceptable, based on solid reasons drawn from morality (what is right?), Physiology (what will arouse beyond stopping?), And psychology (what he might wrongly assume?).
Explore the potential mental conflicts the dating situation might create. You may often find yourself trying to weigh the value of maintaining your standards against the value of not hurting his feelings, or of maintaining the relationship, or even of ensuring your personal safety.
Learn from others of the consequences not communicating your standards clearly and forcefully - before you learn it from painful and bitter experience. Develop effective, assertive ways of saying? No? or? stop? without lying, hurting, or estranging. All of this thinking-through is best done alone, away from the critical, split-second decision-making you might have to do on a date.
Another important point to remember is how often alcohol is connected with date rape. In fact, it is directly involved in a large majority of cases. Guys looking for a new conquest know that even a beer or two will lower your resistance. If you are aware of this ploy, you can guard against it.
Of course, avoiding date rape is not just the woman's responsibility. Each man who dates must also develop his own convictions. Decide how far is too far. Stop thinking of and treating women as commodities and start esteeming them as persons with inestimable worth. God sees each of them as one? For whom Christ died? (Rom. 14:15, 1 Cor. 8:11). How priceless, then, she must be!
Did you know that respect from you and for you is one of the highest values most women want in a growing relationship? Cultivate her respect by establishing your own standards rather than relying on her to determine when to stop.
Resolve never to overcome? No? with coaxing, ridicule, or any kind of manipulation or coercion. Appreciate the value of self-control as an important step you can take now toward becoming a world-class lover when and if you get married.
The goal both of you have in most dates is to develop a deeper , More satisfying relationship. Heterosexual intercourse is designed by God to be the fullest and deepest expression of such a relationship, provided it is experienced in an environment of concern, trust and mutual respect.
Such an environment only marriage can provide. Here are three passages that will help you know where to draw the line:

? Flee from sexual immorality? (1 Cor. 6:18). Is the activity you are engaged in on a date coming closer and closer to fornication, or is it helping you stay away from it?
The way some Christian students act on a date, you would think the verse read ? Pursue sexual immorality? As long as you don? T catch it. They are what could be called, "Technical Virgins,? avoiding intercourse, but engaging in everything else.
This is not fleeing from sexual immorality. It is yielding to it, longing for it, and fantasizing about it. Those who take such an approach to the dating scene can no longer call themselves well even if they are still virgins physiologically.

? Not everything is beneficial. . . . I will not be mastered by anything? (1 Cor. 6:12). Jesus must be our only master, not self, and certainly not libido.
If our sexual desires are so uncontrollable that we are no longer submissive to Christ, we should follow Paul's advice, "It is better to marry than to burn with passion? (1 Cor. 7:9).

? And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him? (Col. 3:17). Can you begin and end your date with prayer, asking for God's presence throughout the evening and for His blessing on all that you two will do?
Are you willing for anyone who witnesses what you do on your date to know that you are a Christian? When we are baptized into Christ, we put on Christ, and for the rest of our lives, as we walk in the light, we continue to wear Him.
If you are in the habit of taking off Him , Rolling Him up, and stuffing Him into your glove compartment or checking him with the attendant at the door, know this: Christ will not be put off many times before He refuses to be put on again. You insult Him whenever you do it.

Excluding Foreplay and sexual intercourse from dating gives you a chance to explore each other in ways more important in the long run, establishing the lines of communication that are the essentials of every successful marriage. Ask your date these questions: "Who are you? What are your core values? Name your top three ambitions. What do you like to do? What's your absolute passion? What do you like about yourself? What do you despise in yourself or in others? What do you see in me worth admiring? " Then say: "Do you know what I like about you? Allow me to get out my list."

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Online Dating Safety Tips

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Online dating is as safe, and in some ways safer than meeting people offline. Online dating services protect your anonymity at all times (your real name, contact details, and so on) and provide tools to block and report bad apples, as well as online dating safety tips like these. The rest is up to you. If there's any danger at all, it's that you feel too safe and forget to use your common sense. So, here are some reminders to help keep your online dating experiences safe and enjoyable.
Remain anonymous:
Never, ever include your real name, address or contact details in your profile or personal ad, or communications with other members. Remember, there's absolutely no reason why anyone would need these details. Online dating services provide plenty of options for communicating, safely and anonymously.
Be wary of anyone who presses for information:
At online dating sites the focus is on personalities, interests, values and so on - the type of information that helps you determine if someone's "the one." Specific details, like your exact address, or place of work or study are not relevant and you should be immediately suspicious of anyone who pushes for this type of information.
Keep it vague: Telling someone that you workout out at the gym every night is fine. Telling them at which gym, at what times, and that you're afraid of the dark alley behind it is not!
Do not paint a picture:
Remember, some people are very good at putting two and two together to learn more about you than you'd like them to know! Again, keep it vague.
Go slow:
Take your time getting to know someone. If someone seems too good to be true, they probably are. With time, you'll spot any inconsistencies and realize that things do not quite add up.
Act on your instincts:
If you're uncomfortable communicating with another member, move on. There's no need to explain. One of the big advantages of online dating is that you can block other members, making yourself instantly inaccessible, zapping them out of your life!
Report bad apples:
The better online dating services devote money and personnel to quality control but appreciate your help. They have systems in place that make it easy to report members who are spoiling their service for others.
Choose a quality dating site:
Last but not least, choose a well-established , Popular site with plenty of members. Popularity is a good indicator that a dating service is doing plenty to keep it's members happy, including tools and policies that keep you safe online.
Copyright 2005 Caroline Mackenzie

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Meeting Your Online Date in Safety

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Here are some common sense safety tips for meeting your online date in person. Your instincts will play a strong role in keeping you safe too, so listen to them and take action if you feel uncomfortable or alarmed at any time. Remember, there's also a good chance that your date is perfectly genuine. Tread a sensible line between optimism and caution and your date will be safe and enjoyable.
Meet when you're ready:
Do not be pressured into meeting your online date. One of the big attractions of online dating is that you can find out the important stuff - be sure there's a real possibility for a relationship - up front, so take your time and make the most of it. Your offline date should confirm and enhance your feelings, not lead to disappointment, or nasty surprises!
Meet in a public place:
Hopefully most of you are yawning at this. However, when you've built up some trust online, and happen to share an interest in lonely country walks, say, a lonely country walk might seem like a great idea for a first date. Give yourself a severe reality check when arranging a first date. First dates should always be in well-populated, public places.
Meet in a familiar or well-known area:
You need to be able to find your way home, or back to your hotel room, quickly and easily. Do not travel into unfamiliar neighborhoods and if you've traveled to an unfamiliar city to meet your date, choose a hotel in a central area that's well known to taxi drivers and locals.
Meet in a place where you're not well known:
For first dates, avoid favorite hangouts where everyone knows you and your business. Your date can return to PRY information out of your favorite bartender or friends, or turn up uninvited - bad news if you decide not to pursue the relationship.
Travel independently:
revealing where you live, where you're staying or getting into a strange vehicle puts you at risk. Be sure to make your own way to and from your date, and do not be persuaded otherwise. If you make your travel arrangements ahead of time, you'll have a good excuse for refusing any offers to pick you up or drop you home, and if your date's half the person you think they are, they'll respect your independence and caution .
Make your own arrangements:
Do not let your date take over and make all the decisions about where you go, what you do, and, if you're traveling from another city, where you stay. Make your own travel arrangements (I've said this already, but it's important), book your own hotel, and make sure you and your common sense get to play a big role in deciding when and where your date takes place.
Tell a friend or relative about your date:
Make sure someone knows who you're meeting (their full name and phone number), when, where and at what time you expect to be back .
Take your cell phone:
If you do not have a cell phone, borrow one. Arrange for someone to call you at a certain time to check up on how your date is going, and how you're feeling about it. Agree beforehand on some phrases that will let them know, without giving the game away to your date, whether it's going well or whether you need to put a pre-arranged escape plan into action.
Do not drink too much:
Sure, a drink can calm your nerves but be careful not to overdose it and lose your ability to make safe and sensible decisions.
Leave if you feel uncomfortable: 
You're excited about your date, you want it to go well, to give it every chance of success but (and it's a big but) do not let this tempt you into ignoring or excusing the fact that something does not feel right. If it does not feel right it probably is not. Trust your instincts, admit it and get out of there. If necessary, enlist the help of a waiter or manager or some other person that can help you make a get away, perhaps feigning a call from home or showing you an alternative way out of the building. Remember though, it's not necessary to explain yourself to your date. Simply leave.
Watch for strange behavior:
When you meet offline, dating should fall into a natural, comfortable pattern. Stop dating if it does not. For instance, if your date always wants to meet some distance from where they live or work, is reluctant to introduce you to friends or family, or has strange rules about how and when you call each other, something's very wrong.
Copyright 2004 Caroline Mackenzie

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Creating An Effective Personals Ad That Gets Results: Do's and Don'ts

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Creating a great ad means selling your strengths and attributes. Think of this as creating your personal resume. Many of the online systems provide a multiple choice matching along with an essay. After someone finds you with a "match", it is your essay portion that can make you shine. It is crucial to fill out the essay completely, with at least 2 or three sentences per question asked. You can come back to the essay later on many systems. You will spend 45 minutes to an hour filling this out. People who do not fill out the essay are not taking seriously and get passed on for other profiles that are more forthcoming. Be honest in your ad.
What to write about? Describe yourself honestly and accurately. Include hard data such as your height, weight, body type, educational background and profession. Show your personality. Talk about your hobbies, interests, activities you enjoy, movies, books, or music you enjoy, where you like to travel, and minimally about your work (do not give your place of employment .... keep it general such as: I am a nurse at a local clinic, an accountant with a medium size company, etc). Do not share too much information or write a book ..... just write enough to get them interested. You have to leave something to talk about later.
Share your feelings and experiences, not just facts about your life. You do not want your profile to be a touchy-feely pile of mush (can you hear your potential dates heading for the door?), But you do want to communicate things people can relate to: where you're from, where you are, where you're going in life, what makes you laugh, things you really enjoy about life. DO NOT fixate on only one aspect of your life: You may love your dog, have a great career, live to ski, and those are great things to talk about in your profile. But if you talk about that and only that, you're going to come off as one-dimensional and obsessed. Show your fully rounded self. Put your personality and humor into what you write. Tell what you are like, and do not try to make false impressions. False impressions will back fire in the online dating arena as much as they will in the rest of your life. Relax, and let your true self show through. There are people who will like who you are.
Do not dwell on your problems and limitations: This is not the place to talk about why you got divorced, your last relationship did not work out, or problems at work. You can talk about this later after you get to know someone. If you have children, mention them briefly with their ages and sex. Do not spend time talking about your children or reveal their names. People are wanting to look at a profile that focuses on YOU, not your immediate family. You can talk about your childcare arrangements and coaching little league soccer, etc later. People looking at your profile want to know you have time for them. Focusing on your children and their activities can give the impression that you will have limited time.
What you are looking for: Think about who you are and what you are looking for. To make friends? Fall in love? Meet someone to hang out with? Do you want something long term or short term? Do you just want to chat with? (Ex. I am looking for a cultured man between 32-45 who is a Christian, attends church, college educated, and is into opera and gallery hopping). (Ex. Looking for a down to earth gal between 22-30 that likes the country, camping, country music, country dancing and NASCAR). Do not say that you are looking for the love of your life and want to get married .... this will scare a lot of people away. Its good idea to state the general type of person you are hoping to meet, but do not overdose it. If you set down too many requirements you will miss out on the opportunity to meet some great people, and quite possibly the one that is just right for you.
Words to Use and Avoid: Good Words: affection, Likes to cuddle, interested in a committed relationship, sensitive, great cook, romantic, caring, monogamous, down to earth, looking for best friend, educated, sophisticated, loving, generous, cute, reliable, my colleagues describe me as handsome, great legs, petite, curvaceous, hourglass figure, gentleman.
Words to Avoid: Some of the bad stuff I have seen in ads. (On some systems, you will get terminated using some of this language whether in your profile or in an email). These guys have read too many Penthouse magazines and need to look in the alternative personals. Here is what NOT to put in a personal on a regular / metro site: Well hung, great in bed, I'd love to satisfy you, sexually insatiable, animal, great lover, oral, f * ck, blow, make love, erotic, uninhibited and any other sexual words. This stuff is SCARY to most women and runs them off.You can tweak and improve your profile as you go along.
Tweaking your profile: If you're getting the type of responses you're looking for, great. If you're getting responses from the wrong types of people or not getting as many responses as you'd like, then review your profile and think about how you can improve it and make yourself shine a little bit more. Most matchmaking systems have a place for you to edit your essay and parts of your ad. Take a look at it at least every couple of weeks.
How to search for a new friend: Each matchmaking system has different ways of searching for compatible profiles. Some have several ways. Typically these are MATCH, SEARCH, FIND, and some allow you to make a Search Profile that you can reuse. You can search by location, ideal height and weight, ethnic background - even by interest in having kids in the future.
A high percentage on a multiple choice match is a good start but read the answers and look at the essay. The percentages may be great but then the profile might be someone who sounds desperate and lonely, is someone just looking for sex or has totally different interests and values.
If there is a photo, look at the photo and remember that the photo can be one taken yesterday or 5 years ago. Unless the person is down right unappealing, remember that amateur / family photos do not always make a person look their best. Look for profiles that match your ideal characteristics but also hit you the right way - do the writers sound funny? Intellectual? Love animals as much as you do? Like to travel?
Posting Photos: It is up to you to post a photo. You will increase your response rate TEN TIMES by posting a photo. People want to see who they are writing to, and many do not want to start a correspondence and waste time with someone that they do not know if there is even a initial attraction from a photo. If you want a lot of responses, you'd better have a picture. From my experience, and from what I've heard from others, it seems that people who do not have pictures of themselves are usually hiding something. So, if you do not have a picture, people are going to assume you look like a dog. If you are a high profile person in the city you live, offer in your profile to exchange photos from your personal (yahoo or hotmail, not your real email address). Make sure you put an accurate description of what you look like in your profile. You may want to say what celebrity you closely resemble.
People who say they do not have a photo or do not have a way to get one on line are either lazy or playing games. If you do not have a scanner at home or work, take a photo to Kinko's (they are everywhere). Have your photo or photos scanned in a. Jpg format. Most matchmaking systems do not allow you to send the zip files or unusable formats. Typically. Jpg,. Gif, and. Bmp is the limit and they must be sized down. Photos should have a shirt on, clearly show your face (no sunglasses), well lit, no swimwear (except for secondary shots) and no family in your primary photo. Make sure you are smiling in the photo. (Who wants to meet someone who looks angry and glume). Many companies allow secondary shots that have your family and friends in the photos as long as you are in the photo. Do not use a photo in which you're dressed too revealingly - you want to look elegant and alluring, but a picture of you in a bikini is going to attract the wrong kind of responses. What
should you not send? You car, house, boat, photos of your kids or friends by themselves, photos where your face is the size of a pencil head, photos with your ex, dark shots, anything revealing, etc.. Send your best photos. Remember, FIRST IMPRESSIONS may be your only chance. Your most recent photo of you camping (once in 5 years) with the ball cap on may leave a the impression that you do not want others to have. Again, think in terms of a resume. How would you want an employer to first see you? (Dressed nicely with your hair perfect). Ex. A good mix would be primary photo in a business suit or polo shirt, secondary photo out rock climbing with friends, third photo with two nephews at XMAS.
Out of Town or Unable to Answer email? Members of matchmaking systems expect responses to their emails quickly. If you can not answer emails for a week or two, edit your profile and at the top of the essay say "I will be out of town for" x time frame "and will not have access to email. Please ear mark my profile and write me back at "x time frame" and I will be happy to respond when I return. " This is especially important during the summer months when people are on vacation and during holidays.

If you are serious about online dating, you need to be on the right dating website. The top dating website of 2007-2008 was voted to be AdultFriendFinder.com, which has the most options for matches and the most members compared to their competition. Don't wait any longer or waste your time on other sites, a simple click can change your life!

Donald Trump and the Apprentice Rules Applied to Dating

2008-11-30T15:24:00.001-08:00

I was reading an article about the Apprentice and some of the rules that Donald Trump and his apprentice assistants had come up with about business. While reading a lot of them I saw a huge relation to how these same rules also apply to dating as crazy as it might sound.
Donald Trump is a famous Billionaire who has endured ups and downs for a number of decades. It appears a large portion of his wealth has been made in Real Estate. Recently he has had a popular reality series NBC has been showing known as the Apprentice. The Reality Show isn? T all frivolous as a lot of the other reality shows around. At the center of every episode are real gems on how to climb a corporate ladder, how to lead, how to stand out from the crowd and even how to fail and avoid getting the boot.
centers on The Apprentice a competition for a job working for the Billionaire Donald Trump. Every episode features some sort of business task or some sort of competition. At the end of each episode some of the competitors are fired which means they leave the show and miss out on the opportunity to work for My Trump. This takes place in the Boardroom where members are encouraged to evaluate their teammates performance, abilities, work ethics. The guy who makes the biggest errors tends to be the one? Fired?. Beyond winning the competition, each individual team member must act in a manner that earns him or her respect as a project manager or team member.
Some of the gems of the show for thought. 1. Think Like A Winner
Donald Trump's most profound comment (and first commandment) is, "Winning is everything." He explained that while there is no better feeling? the ability to think like a winner is the key to being one. Those who take their eyes off the prize wind up hearing two little words: you? Re fired.
This relates to dating as somebody who feels confident can be confident. A person who feels he has already won a battle has a huge edge over somebody who feels he has a lot of obstacles to overcome. A person who feels he is a winner is a winner as your beliefs are what shape you. The person you wish to win over will be more heavily attracted to somebody who believes in themselves than somebody who doesn? T.
2. Polish Your Interview Skills
The importance of exceptional interview skills became crucial as the field narrowed to the final four contestants in episode 14. Kelly, Jennifer M, Kevin and Stacy underwent a grueling series of job interviews with four of the top business leaders in the world. The two candidates left standing after this process? Kelly and Jennifer M? demonstrated superior ability to think on their feet. Some of the spontaneous answers lobbed by Kevin and Sandy, made viewers cringe. It quickly became clear who had the? Right stuff? to survive the hot seat.
This second rule can be applied to having good communication skills. Somebody who can think of their feet and express their thoughts easily can communicate their feelings much more easily. Somebody who is also good at interviews will know what to say that somebody can open up to a whole new level. They will allow a great sense of rapport to be built quickly and be very deep.
3. Lead Strong or Play Along
Getting their team of? Alphas? to follow without question was a challenge for each project manager. Some ruled with an iron fist, others used manipulation and guilt. Some didn? T handle it at all.
In episode 11, Wes took the lead in a task to create an ad campaign for Levi's Jeans. Mary, one of his teammates, thought she had this task together and angrily told Wes to back off, while she seized control.
Maria was so busy throwing her weight around, she missed the primary focus of jeans advertising? the? butt shots?. This single oversight cost the team dearly. Later, in The Boardroom, Wes was fired for failing to control Maria,,, and she was fired for posing as a know-it-all. Two for the price of one turned out to be all in a day's work for Mr. Donald Trump.
On this and dating. One of the things we teach our students in workshops is to lead and never hesitate. When a student sees strong indications of interest it is his responsibility to act on them and follow up. If a student fails to lead than the interest level will soon drop to a very low level quickly. Learning to Play along can also be taken as a way to see the signals and be aware of them. When somebody is showing interest it's best to play along and let them be interested than giving them something else.
4. Step Up, Take Responsibility
Finger-pointing was rampant among teams on the Apprentice. If you were really slick about it, laying blame off on one of your teammates could help you survive another day. If you weren? T? oh well.
This is a common thing I see with some students when I hear about what they have done before working with Attractanddate in a workshop. They fail to take responsibility for their own actions. This is done in so many ways its crazy. First if they have a bad date they blame the date a lot, where they went, what they did, others around? Yet they never look at themselves and wonder if they could have done anything different to improve the situation. The only way to learn from mistakes is to first realize you made a mistake in the first place.
Another example is guys who use different systems for dating. There are many programs out there. I can make ALL of them work. When a student can not make something work. They tend to first want to blame the system instead of themselves. So they are on a constant search of dating systems never realizing that each system has had some students have success. They can not learn if they do not take responsibility for their own actions.
5. Resist the Impulse to Be Impulsive
The game provides that the winning project manager receive an exemption from firing should his or her team lose the following week? an Apprentice "Get Out of Jail Free" card.
Bradford won one week? but lost in week two. He had clearly been the hardest working and most productive on his team and Mr. Trump seemed to especially favor him. Moreover, he had the exemption and could not be fired. All he had to do was sit back and make insightful comments about his teammates.
But Bradford let his cockiness get in the way of sound business judgment. He bragged to Mr. Trump that he was so confident of his performance he was willing to give up his exemption.
Trump accepted Bradford's offer? and then fired him, for making an unwise and impulsive decision. It was a harsh, but instructive consequence for acting in a rash manner.
One of the things I can think of with this is somebody who is too impulsive is not paying attention to others. A relationship is a two way street involving both parties. When somebody is being impulsive and the other person isn? T respective than this creates a dead end.
6. Instill confidence in Your Team
Both of the final two contestants, Kelly and Jennifer M, demonstrated how to respect and inspire their co-workers. Choosing people you trust and with whom you have mutual respect goes a long way toward success.
In the final episode, eight of the previously fired teammates were brought back to become the support team for the final task. Jennifer and Kelly were allowed to take turns choosing their team members. Kelly took a stronger role with his team, expecting more of each of them, while Jennifer delegated the heavy lifting to herself.
In the end, both sets of teams did a great job for their PMs, but Kelly 's team proved more loyal and spoke more highly of his leadership abilities. Their confidence in him had an impact on the final outcome.
This can be taken in installing confidence in who you are attracted to. When you are interested in them and extremely confident. Others will feel your true feelings. When they can feel your feelings they will mirror them. Who wants to be around somebody who takes away their confidence?
7. Watch What You Say
Both talking too much and saying the wrong thing can hurt you in business. Jennifer C was an example of both errors and their consequences.
Every time she appeared in The Boardroom, Jennifer was admonished by both Mr. Trump and his property manager, Carolyn, for talking when she should have been listening to others.
Later, after making a demeaning comment about two women customers in an episode, she was booted from the show. To add injury to insult her, when the show finally aired, she was also fired from her real world job for that comment.
This applies to dating with the idea of listening is just as important as talking. Telling somebody they are pretty when they are trying to make a point and have something important to say is not what they want to hear. The same would go for things such a negative hits or being cocky and funny which are terms used in the seduction community.
A negative hit is a slight insult which is supposed to be insulting but not seem like you meant com. I do not usually endorse this. It is to try to convey you are not really interested in your target person to let their guard down.
Somebody who is being very cocky and funny can do so at the wrong time too. When a person is showing signs of interest they are asking for rapport. Giving them answers that are cocky and funny will actually break rapport and chase a lot of people away.
8. Know When to Listen
During another visit to The Boardroom, Trump chastised (National Debate Champion) Andy for not standing up and arguing in his own behalf. Andy shot back to Mr. Trump that part of being a debate champ is in knowing when to talk and when to listen.
A short and sweet argument that paid off.
I think this and how it applies to dating and seduction is very obvious. Listening is a key part of communication.
9. Keep it Strictly Business
Viewers were told? over and over? that The Apprentice contestants were culled from over a million applicants and were said to be the best of the very best. This being so, one wouldn? T expect the male participants to lose their composure when attractive women crossed their paths, mid-task. And yet, there was Raj. In addition to an unending stream of inappropriate comments, Raj stopped just short of a butt wiggle and a "Wooo, Whoo" whenever a beautiful woman was within ten feet.
And while this behavior did not directly lead to his being fired, it did (often) cause him to lose focus and take his eye off the prize. In fact, Raj was ultimately fired for letting an important detail slide? making sure the toilet was installed in a home he was charged with remodeling.
This is a little bit more difficult to summarize for dating. Somebody who lacks focus tends to lack drive. When you really have a goal in mind going after 20 different things usually gets somebody nowhere.
10. Avoid Showing Your A **
This one should be a no-brainer, but since it actually happened, maybe not.
Fairly late in the game, in episode 13, Ivana was desperate for a win. Clutching at straws, she offered to pull down her skirt and flash her underwear to a strange businessman on the street if he would pay her twenty dollars for a candy bar worth one dollar. He did? and then she did?
So, it was no surprise that Ivana wound up in The Boardroom, having to explain this to Mr Gaff. Trump. She claimed her action as a? Gimmick. But this taught us another valuable lesson? know when you have done something inappropriate and face it head on. When she refused to acknowledge that she crossed a line, the shock, dismay and controversy surrounding her behavior was palpable.
Well this is true but there is a time to show you? King a ** and a time not to show your assets. When you first meet somebody common sense says don? T take off your pants as the first things you do when introducing yourself.
To summarize all of this a lot of the rules that help somebody get ahead in business can also help them get ahead dating others.
Take a look at the website. To learn more about? The Apprentice? go to http://www.NBC.com

If you are serious about online dating, you need to be on the right dating website. The top dating website of 2007-2008 was voted to be AdultFriendFinder.com, which has the most options for matches and the most members compared to their competition. Don't wait any longer or waste your time on other sites, a simple click can change your life!

Top 10 reasons to Find a Date Online

2008-11-30T15:23:00.003-08:00

I'm often surprised by the number of people who are unsure if online dating is right for them. I think online dating is great way for just about anybody to meet new people. Lets take a look at my top ten reasons for dating online.
1. You can meet anyone anywhere
Its easy for you make new friends around the world. You have the opportunity to meet people in different cities, states or provinces, and even countries.
2. Knowledge of the person
You have the opportunity to get to know someone before you even meet them. Being able to have fun conversations with a person online before you head out on that first date saves you from the date from hell.
3. Sexual orientation
This is a huge advantage for some. It can be very difficult to find a date if you have a more unique sexual orientation.
4. Religion
If your Christian you can find others who share the same beliefs as you do. In today's society that can be very difficult and the Internet makes it easy.
5. Fun services
Maybe your not looking for a long term relationship and just want some fun. This too is made very easy with online dating services.
6. Web Cam and Chat
Some people just want a little show in front of there computers. With a fast connection to the Internet you can have all this and much more. This could be better then going out to the strippers if this is your type of thing.
7. Single Parents
If your a single parent you will find dating online is much easier. Finding other single parents or people who do not care that you have children makes things ohhhh so easier for you.
8. Its Cheap
Lets face it online dating services are not really that expensive. They provide you with a bunch of quality services and a great community of people for you to meet. All of this is done at a low cost and can be done from your home.
9. Find People with the same Interests
Dating services lets your narrow down your criteria of people to find someone that enjoys the same things you do in life.
10. Find the love of your life
Yes this may seem obvious but you really could meet someone that you spend the rest of your life with.

If you are serious about online dating, you need to be on the right dating website. The top dating website of 2007-2008 was voted to be AdultFriendFinder.com, which has the most options for matches and the most members compared to their competition. Don't wait any longer or waste your time on other sites, a simple click can change your life!

You've Been Dumped! Here's How to Get Over It

2008-11-30T15:23:00.001-08:00
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? ve all been there. We? Ve fallen in love with somebody who just didn? T love us back. We? Ve heard a variety of exit lines:? I think it's time we started seeing other people? ? I love you, but I? M not in love with you,? or? It's not you. It's me.
It's hard to accept when the other person just stops returning phone messages, but it's even worse when they keep calling after the break-up. Running into the object of affection in a public place is also a killer, especially if he or she gives mixed signals by making persistent eye contact. It doesn? T help when they send an email every so often to see how you? Re doing, either.
Instead, it makes it really easy for you to lie to yourself. You tell yourself that this person really does love you but is afraid of being hurt. The poor thing! If only you could convince him or her that you are a gentle soul utterly incapable of causing pain. If only you could prove your Trustworthiness, your dedication. You will win him over! You will make her see! You will!
You lie awake at night replaying the happy scenes between you. You remember the tender way she looked at you while you recited your lines from the Third Grade Christmas pageant over a candlelit dinner. You bring to mind the yielding fullness of his lower lip as you kissed him on the beach. Surely this person loves you! Why must they live in such terror of loving and be loved?
And so it goes. You become caught up in believing that someone who doesn? T really does love you, blinding yourself to opportunities to meet a person who will truly make you happy.
You can not move on until you stop obsessing, but that 's easier said than done, right? Here's what worked for me:
Tell the person to bug off. Just as you must cease contact with the object of your affection, he or she must cease contact with you. Tell this person you? Re not ready to be friends and you don? T know if you ever will be. Any patronizing Inquiring they send emails to your well-being will be left unread and marked as SPAM.
Write down all the things that bothered you. After being dumped, it's natural to idealize the dumper. We remember the happy events and tender moments, but we forget about the time he was chatting away with a blob of scrambled egg stuck to his lip, or how mascara used to crumble in her eye sockets. We forget about the stack of Victoria's Secret catalogs he kept on his night table, or her fondness for using four-letter words in 4-Star restaurants. Nobody is perfect. Everybody has faults, so write down a list of the object of your affection's worst traits and pull it out every time that scene of the two of you fooling around at sunrise pops into your head. Tape a copy to your bathroom mirror while you? Re at it, so you see it first thing in the morning.
Throw out all reminders. It doesn? T even have to be a gift. It could be a book you discussed, a bottle of wine you shared that's still on your kitchen counter, or the sheets you slept on together. Treat yourself by replacing everything. Start fresh.
Turn off the radio. You? Re minding your own business, doing quite well, thank you, when all of a sudden some song comes on the radio that reminds you of the object of your obsession. Change the channel. Snap off the radio. Act fast, or in an instant you will be back where you started, treading the cycle of being in love, jilted, depressed, hopeful, and delusional.
Picture the person in a repellent fashion. It didn? T matter that the object of my affection didn? T even own a baseball cap, an effective technique I used to? Turn myself off? to him was to imagine him wearing a baseball cap in a restaurant. I really hate a guy who wears a baseball cap in a restaurant. Surely there are things that turn you off. Imagine the your object of obsession doing them.
Make the commitment. The reason we obsessive about people who hurt us is because it's comfortable. Heck, sometimes it's even fun. But to move on to the love you deserve, you have to make a commitment to stop obsessing. So make it. Remember, the opposite of love is not hate. It's indifference. When you? Re indifferent to the person who hurt you, you will truly be free and on your way to genuine happiness.

If you are serious about online dating, you need to be on the right dating website. The top dating website of 2007-2008 was voted to be AdultFriendFinder.com, which has the most options for matches and the most members compared to their competition. Don't wait any longer or waste your time on other sites, a simple click can change your life!

Tips for Creating a Successful Online Dating Profile

2008-11-30T15:22:00.001-08:00

Your profile is the key to meeting your perfect match at online dating and personals services so it's surprising that many profiles are mediocre at best. With a little extra time, thought and effort, and the help of these tips, you can make yours a winner and attract a large pool of admirers to take your pick from.
Invent a distinctive username:
Your username (nickname) is the first hint at what kind of person you are. It needs to be original and memorable, while somehow you Summing up - not easy in a dozen or so letters!
For ideas, think about your interests, background, location and personality. For instance, an outgoing person from Phoenix might choose PhoenixSparkler, an avid skier with a wild streak might be SnowTiger. Humor's great (I recently spotted MissBehaving) but overly sentimental (LetMeBeTheOne), meaningless (Vyc2DX) or desperate sounding (SoLonelyInOhio) names are a turn off.
Give yourself time: think of a name before sitting down to complete your profile, as well as a couple of backup options. It's amazing how many "original" names are already in use. Most services spit out alternatives but they're usually unimaginative and full of numbers.
Write a compelling headline:
Your opening line, or headline, is like the first thing you see on an ad: it should compel people to read on and find out more about you. Do not be apologetic about being there - "I do not normally do this sort of thing" - and do not begin (as thousands do) with "My name's Bob, I'm 25 and live in Boise." This is not compelling. It's not even interesting. "Born in Boise, Heading for Barbados" is more the thing. It's intriguing without being confusing, and raises questions: is Bob a traveler, a dreamer or working for an international company? Only one way to find out - read on!
Again, it's not easy. If you get stuck, a favorite line from a song, book or movie can say lot about you - who you like and / or what you believe in - and stands out to other people who love it too.
Post at least one photo:
For 75% of online daters, the photo is the first thing they look for when browsing through profiles. Not surprisingly, profiles with photos get ten to fifteen times the response of those without. Including a photo is a must! But beware, some photos do more harm than good. Big offenders are photos that show you with someone else, or even worse, part of someone else. (It might not be your ex, or your ex's body part, but people have no way of knowing.)
If you do not have a suitable photo, get one taken, and keep it real - glamor shots could come back to haunt you. Think about asking a friend to pick out a photo that they think looks most like you. Make sure people do not have to squint at the screen to see what you look like, and be sure to smile!
Check the right boxes:
Most profiles have a hefty component of check boxes - age group, sex, and so on. It's a basic thing but when researching sites I do it a lot myself: check the wrong boxes or forget to change them from a default setting that is not right for me. And I'm not alone. Believe it or not, a common mistake among online daters is choosing the wrong sex of their ideal partner. So, take care over these basic but important details.
Check your spelling and grammar:
You might be the most intelligent person on the planet but if you rush your profile and don ' t check your spelling and grammar you're not going to come across well to anyone who values intelligence. You might like to prepare your freestyle entries using a program with spelling and grammar checkers, then paste them into your profile.
Avoid clich? S:
Unfortunately, a lot of people say the same thing in the same way as everyone else. It's boring at best and unbelievable at worst. Can we really believe that so many people "exercise regularly and keep in good shape? Also, use a thesaurus to replace well-worn words like "good" and "nice" with more interesting, meaningful alternatives that add spice and sparkle to your profile.
Make your meaning clear:
Your spelling and grammar might be perfect but sometimes your words can convey a completely different meaning from what you intended. Give your profile a thorough reading to avoid potentially embarrassing or damaging misinterpretations!
Stick to your own style:
Many online dating profiles include sections where you can express yourself in your own words. It's a chance to make yourself more human and "real," and other members can pick up lots of interesting information about you - clues they might find appealing - from the way you express yourself. Do not block the process by suddenly adopting a style and tone that is not really you.
Focus on your unique qualities:
It's our unique qualities that make us attractive - and to some, very attractive! When you have a chance to describe yourself, let these qualities shine. Skip the things that people take for granted (and have in common) and focus on the things that make you, "you."
Perhaps you speak another language, have an unusual skill or interest, or something you feel passionately about. Small things count too. If you change your hair color every other day or have an addiction to triple hot chili sauce, say so. People who share or appreciate your unique qualities will tune right in and they make great conversation starters if they decide to make a move!
Flatter yourself - it's allowed!:
If you ' re good at something or proud of yourself for something, go ahead and blow your own trumpet. Confidence (not to be confused with a raging ego!) Is an attractive quality and there are plenty of ways to flatter yourself while sounding modest: "My friends say I'm ..." or, "If I had to describe one thing about myself that I like ..."
Be honest:
Many people can not resist the urge to be less than completely honest when writing their online personals profile. Women tend to lie about their appearance and men about their status and physical prowess. There's really no need. Online dating and personals services have thousands if not millions of members. You've got a great chance of meeting someone who's attracted to the real you, warts and all. Of course, there's no need to tell your darkest secrets - just keep it real. You'll be able to pursue relationships without having to worry about all the lies you've spun. Honesty is an attractive trait.
Be passionate about your passions:
If you have a hobby or interest that you're absolutely passionate about, that takes up a lot of your time and energy, go ahead and rave about it. It's better that people know up front how important it is to you, and fellow fanatics will tune right in!
Be careful with humor:
Humor's great but a super-dry or tongue -in-cheek sense of humor may not work well in writing. People do not know and you can not see the twinkle in your eye. You'll have ample opportunity to display your brand of wit when you're communicating one-on-one with other members.
Say it with feeling:
Too many profiles read like a job application with flat phrases like, "I enjoy skiing, cooking and photography" which do not really tell us much. Add emotions, thoughts and feelings into the mix. The idea is to showcase your personality and make a connection on an emotional level.
Be positive: Our bugbears
say something about the type of person we are but keep them to a minimum in your profile or they'll say something bad! Focus on the things that make you feel good and you'll come across as a fun date.
Do not dwell on past relationships:
Too much talk of past relationships is a sure way to scare off potential dates. It does not show much commitment to moving along in life with someone new. However, some services touch on the subject in their profiles in which case you can give it a more interesting, positive twist by talking in general terms about lessons learned, where you are today and what your hopes are for future relationships.
Describe your ideal match in your own words:
If you have an opportunity to describe the type of person you're looking to meet in your own words, use it. If someone reads your profile and likes you, they'll know right away whether or not they're a likely candidate for your affections. On the other hand, do not be too picky or demanding! One idea is to limit yourself to the three or four attributes that you value most in a partner and perhaps one big turn off (you want to keep it positive overall).
Describe the kind of dates you enjoy:
Make it easy for people to ask you on a date by giving them an idea of the kind of dates you enjoy. For instance, "I like a relaxing atmosphere where you can chat and get to know someone," or, "Doing something new and exciting together is a great way to get to know someone."
Promote yourself as a great date:
When someone likes what they read in your profile, they'll probably wonder what kind of date you'd make. In other words, you seem interesting and attractive but would you be the date from hell? Put this question to rest with upfront information that paints a great picture of what it would be like to date you. For instance, perhaps you're a good listener who likes a quiet, relaxing atmosphere where you can talk and get to know someone, or a sociable energetic type who thinks that doing something new and exciting together is the best way to get to know someone .
When your admirers know you're on the same page in terms of dating style, they're more likely to take the next step and ask you out, or at least to get to know you better, confident you'll be a great date. And if your dating styles are completely out of tune, at least you've avoided finding it out the hard way - on that date from hell.
Create a Master Profile: Save
all your profile information and entries in a master file so you do not have to start from scratch if you're planning on using more than one service. Profiles vary considerably from service to service but many parts will be similar.
Make changes:
Last but not least, do not forget that your profile is not written in stone! It's fast and easy to make any changes you like, so do not fret too much about perfection!
Copyright 2004 Caroline Mackenzie

If you are serious about online dating, you need to be on the right dating website. The top dating website of 2007-2008 was voted to be AdultFriendFinder.com, which has the most options for matches and the most members compared to their competition. Don't wait any longer or waste your time on other sites, a simple click can change your life!